I was just scrolling on Facebook and a video appeared shared by one of my friends. The video was quite lengthy; I just watched from the start and scrolled down. An elegant Indian Lady with affective personality sitting calm on a sofa was teaching audience about acceptance and expectations. I was not in learning mood at that moment so I did not bother to watch the whole video and did not even saved to watch later. I do not remember her name as I think the short part I watched she did not introduce her name otherwise I could have mentioned her name.
Later in the evening when I was passing through a place where I’m annoyed almost every day since last 4 to 5 years. That video was rewind in my mind and I started thinking about few words I listened from her that how important that lecture was to manage life. I came back home took some rest, sat down and started thinking about Acceptance and Expectations. The small portion of food of thought I took from that video I ate I started digesting. In a situation or about a situation, where other people are involved we usually have some expectations from other people. We expect people of behave in a way we want, if they behave in the same way we are okay but if they behave against our expectations we get frustrated, annoyed, angry and hurt.
Let me quote the same situation I stated up there. I usually pass from a place every day, sometimes multiple times in a day. A car decoration shop is in a corner of street where that street meets to main road. Cars are usually parked in front that shop on main road side but if the shop has more customers cars are being parked on entrance of that street which blocked in and out of that street. Parking is prohibited there from county Government and also it disturbs many people as that street is a busy street during day time. I get annoyed every time when it’s blocked, my time is wasted, I get frustrated and many times I told that shop keeper that why you do not understand that it is not parking area people has to pass through. Some random people also park vehicles there when they do not get parking nearby. For the years no one listened to me. I had expectations from that shop owner that he should not park cars which are coming to him for decoration or to get other services he offers there, I had expectation that when a random person will be parking his/her vehicle there he will stop him/her to park there. I’m disappointed almost every day. That day I wanted to pass through from there and again same situation I faced that my way was being blocked. But that day I behaved differently, instead of being disappointed and frustrated over my expectations from those people I accepted the situation and people who caused that situation. I was in rush, I had some important things to do in the office, so instead of coming out of my car and yelling at that shop owner and car owner who blocked the way I just accepted that there are many reasons they cannot behave the way I expect from them. I parked my vehicle nearby and started waiting the road to be cleared. It was taking time, again instead of asking them to clear I just called driver from the office to come to that place, I gave the car key to the driver and asked him to wait until road is clear and then bring car to the office. Myself I just walked to the office as I had to rush there for important tasks to be done.
That in the same situation I face for years, instead of being angry when people are going against my expectations or my will. I accepted the situation and people behavior. The result was awesome. My mind was not disturbed, I remained relaxed, my energy was not being consumed by negative emotions and my time was not wasted too. I finished other tasks with positive attitude without hurting my feelings or emotions by expectations.
<p class="has-medium-font-size" value="<amp-fit-text layout="fixed-height" min-font-size="6" max-font-size="72" height="80"> A lot can be written on this topic and I will write for sure. But today, here I’ll end this blog with just telling you this daily life situational story. I’ll try to explain more about “Acceptance & Expectations” in next blogs. A lot can be written on this topic and I will write for sure. But today, here I’ll end this blog with just telling you this daily life situational story. I’ll try to explain more about “Acceptance & Expectations” in next blogs.
She keeps me awake for whole night to tell her stories. She is a crazy listener who wanna know every details of story, from between the lines to beyond the lines. The real story might happened in ten minutes but her queries will take to hours. But more than a listener she is a story teller. A very boring story she will tell you in such interesting way that can attract you attention. You are feeling sleepy but when she starts saying,” you know what happened?” and all your sleep is just gone miles away. A story you have heard hundred times already and if another person will start it again with first sentence he/she speaks you will stop him/her saying that you have told already tell me something thing new. But in her case every time you will enjoy like you have never heard before. It is not about you are not enjoying but just pretending to enjoy but actually you enjoy like it is very first time.
I’m in the middle of something doing an important work. I’m suppose to pick her call and only for her. Like a child putting her leg in between whatever you are doing and wants you to leave all and play with her. How childish acts these are. But do you know what? It never disturbed me, but always gave me a smile and some unique happiness. I don’t know and could not ever define the type of this happiness I get. I adore her these acts. I adore her childishness, I adore her being a baby doll and yes I adore her totally whatever she does.
It happens when you love her and she is your only love. If you have been busy all day in hectic office work routine. You have just arrived home and nothing you want know but to sleep. But if you encounter her, see her happy face your all tiredness will vanish in air. If she is not in your life you will go to a messy bed and will fall asleep withing no time, but she, she is like a coffee and you will be addicted. She will take your head to her lap and will start telling her stories. You will forget what you have been through whole day. You will just jump to a dream life where there is no worries and anxiety but a life of fairies. I’m telling you, you cannot start telling your story to her unless she wants herself to know something.
Trust me! If you want to spend living nights, get addicted to her company. She has more caffeine than any drink and it is not harmful but good to your body and soul. . .
Fantasy is always a dream, an extreme visualization like a vision. A vision that we can set but it is always unachievable. But on the way to achieve our vision we attain maximum of our life goals.
There is no another fantasy land that exists, where we can just go and enjoy but where we are right now, we have to make it fantasy land. For the fantasy life partner it is the same, like the fantasy life and vision. May be we a raw one, we have to give it a final touch. We have to cut the edges in right manner and bring into a desired fantasy shape. We have to give him/her space to adjust, to become nearly equal to fantasy. I said nearly equal to fantasy because we are not creator of universe, we are not God, we are not that Divine Power Who will assume and imagine something and it will happen and will become to existence as same. Our thoughts and imaginations can reach anywhere but in real we are limited in power to bring something in reality. We can dream and dreams can come true but all, cannot get attire of reality. About the person, we wish to be our fantasy life partner is also a human being but not an angel who will follow totally what God has said. He/she has limited flexibility to change, he/she can bend up to a certain angle otherwise bending one degree more can break him/her. It is not a sin to visualize unachievable vision but when it reaches to its maximum possible real shape we must accept it totally.
Coming back, you know what? This cannot happen in our life when we are looking to start together at once. One has to take first step, he or she has to start. He has to mold himself as her fantasy partner, like her dream guy, a visionary man and an imagined person.
I believe there are to ways to reach your destination or to obtain your goal. First one, you prepare yourself, run behind and do everything which can lead you to your destination. For example you get certificate and degrees, check all newspapers and websites for vacancies available, make resume` accordingly and submit them, you get well prepared for interviews and deliver your best in front of panel. You Get a job. Second one, you decide that what you want to be, one profession you choose as your career. Then you work hard to become irreplaceable in that profession, you are then know as expert of your field. What will happen the destination will look for you, instead of looking for job and submitting CVs to different companies, the companies will come to you with offers. Now, it depends on you which way you choose. I’ll definitely go for second one. ( I will write a detailed separate blog on this topic later. )
So, when he will take the first step and will make necessary changes to obtain a fantasy life and fantasy life partner then she will do the same too. And for sure then it will not be he or she but they will gonna live a fantasy life. . .